My current stage in life is Messy. I mean, we’ve got what seems like 100 toys scattered across the backyard…and who am I kidding? 100 more all over the inside of the house, too! I’m pretty much always behind on laundry. It just seems like I can’t catch up. Y’all, raising kids is hard. It’s made me an entirely different woman than I ever thought I would be. I’m proud of myself for setting morals and establishing a great foundation for raising some good boys, but I’m so disappointed at the way I’ve suddenly just accepted the filth and the mess as just another part of our lives. I broke down and bought a pillow for my living room that says “Please excuse the mess. We’re making memories.”
I thought once I started just accepting this so-called phase that I’d find more happiness and not stress over it all as much. However, I’ve come to realize this messiness comes with a price. Because I’ve allowed the mess to just become another thing in our day, I’ve suddenly realized how messy my emotions are becoming, too. Because I’m not holding it together in every part of my life, I’m losing my head for it along the way.
A few weeks ago, I caught myself telling people “Oh, it’s just my crazy life.” Or “I’m a Hot Mess.” But was I? I have a God who loves me and has blessed me beyond measure, four beautiful kids that are healthy and fun, a family that believes in me and supports me, and a husband that works hard to give me a good life. I’m not near as much of a mess as I led on. Here’s the kicker….I actually started believing this about myself, and now, I’m feeling nothing but discontentment and shame. How did I get here? At what point along the way did I make a mistake and my heart change like this? I’ll tell you….
Priscilla Shirer says, “Anywhere peace is lacking, the enemy is at work.” YIKES. #Guilty
Just GREAT. So, you mean to tell me that all this time, I’ve just been enabling the enemy?! That’s the last thing I need! It’s so much easier than you think to let the enemy creep in and wreak havoc in our lives but once you realize where he’s finding victory, you can put a stop to it. Make the change. Do what it takes to overcome this small or even big obstacle.
I’ve been praying for God to help me bounce back, and I’ve immediately made some changes. First, I absolutely do NOT call myself a Hot Mess anymore. I don’t make jokes about my home being a mess trap, either. Also, I’ve found interest in organizing and letting my boys help with more chores around the house.
I’ve been trying to get myself on a better schedule for house cleaning, so I don’t feel so overwhelmed, and I’m more motivated by all of this which tells me God DEFINITELY has a hand in it! These little things have made a world of difference in just a few short weeks that I’m feeling much better about my home and even my relationship with my oldest. Rather than blaming him for the toys being scattered, I’ve turned my energy to motivating him to help me more.
The enemy is a manipulator. He makes you think “A silly little joke will never be enough to overcome ME!!” But just look at my downward spiral. First it was a joke, then turned into myself believing it and applying it to my life, which led me to a list full of unnecessary emotions.
Has this occurred to you recently? Are you dealing with a similar situation right now that you feel you can’t seem to bounce back from? I’m here to tell you this:
Jesus Christ died on that cross to set us FREE. Along with that Freedom, God provides us with certain weapons that we are to use to fight off the enemy:
“The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God and we take captive every though to make it obedient to Christ. “ -2 Corinthians 10:4-5
Strongholds: Satan. Sin. Temptation. By taking these thoughts “Captive,” we have to make a choice as to whether or not we’re going to put an end to it NOW and seek God’s will or we can continue down a spiral that leads straight to an unhealthy, miserable life.
It seems like we have these thoughts all the time, doesn’t it? We often can’t make changes until we recognize we actually need to change. Here’s where to start:
- Pray that God shows you where you need to change most. Be specific and vulnerable. Lay it all out to Him. You’ll soon feel that something you’re doing no longer feels right. That’s conviction, friend. It’s a major hindrance to the life the enemy wants you to have and it’s the first step to change!
- Once you’ve felt that conviction, acknowledge it. Write it down and post it somewhere that you will see it on a regular basis to remind you it’s something you need to work on.
- Continue to pray in Jesus’ Name. Ask others to pray with you or for you. Jesus says “For where two or three are gathered in my name, I am with them.” –Matthew 18:20
- Search God’s word for answers. What does the Bible say you should do in situations like this?
- Make a plan of Action and start living it out.
I encourage you to continue to pray throughout this journey. Once you’ve overcome one obstacle, Pray for another and start the process over. (Try not to work on several at once) Salvation isn’t just one act. It’s a lifelong journey of sanctification; becoming more like Jesus and less like the old, selfish you.
I’m telling you now, these 5 steps have changed my life. I’ve done this process over and over and over and will continue every single time I’m faced with a problem that especially I have thrown myself into. There’s always room for growth and it’s never too late to start making positive changes!